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Uzone.id — Dating apps have changed the way we meet potential partners, from ‘love at first sight’ to ‘love at first swipe’. Tinder, Bumble, and any other romantic apps make it super easy to connect with people–and potential soulmates only through the phone.
“Most singles need to realize their online dating profile is like a target marketing ad. When I see blank bios or someone who doesn’t make an effort to pick quality photos, it makes sense their online dating experience has been frustrating with dismal results,” said a dating coach, Amie Leadingham.
Online dating offers lots of chances for you to find love, friendship, relation, or even a partner for your career. But it doesn’t come so easy, there’s always a little effort you should put in if you want to make such a good love experience in the app.
So, here’s a guide to help you find your soulmate through dating apps!
Just Make Sure What You’re Looking For in a Partner
Take some time to make sure what you’re looking for in a partner before sliding into the dating apps world.
Are you seeking a serious relationship or companionship, or just casual and fun dating? If you know already what you’re looking for and why you’re here, it will help you filter potential matches more effectively.
Once you do it, there will be no hesitation for you to swipe right when you meet the one who has the same goal as you.
Just Focus on One or Two Dating Apps
Stick to one or two dating apps that suit your style best and where you feel most comfortable.
Each app has its specialties. For example, choose Bumble if you want more control over conversations, or Tinder if you seek quick connections, or you can start with Hinge for a deeper engagement and MeetMindful to find thoughtful matches that suit you well (based on your profile).
But remember, just because one app worked for your friend or coworker, it doesn’t mean it will work for you as well. So be selective about where you choose to invest your time and energy on this one.
“Don’t forget that dating apps are just one of many viable ways you can meet other singles, and they’re rarely the most effective or efficient,” said Blain Anderson, a love expert from Dating By Blain.
Quality Over Quantity
Avoid treating dating like a numbers game, it only leads you to the biggest problem with dating and it’s called cognitive overload, which is dissatisfaction and burnout.
The tip is, to only focus on meaningful connections rather than swiping endlessly. Decision fatigue can lead to cognitive overload symptoms, so use your time and swipe left on the app only when you feel most alert and positive.
Limit Your Swiping Time
Dedicate specific times of the day for swiping, you can do this after work in the morning with your coffee, or when you feel you’re free and have enough time to analyze their bio. This helps you stay intentional and also reduces the addictive nature of constant swiping.
You can turn off notifications to avoid unnecessary stress and keep conversations purposeful when you start chatting with your match.
Build Initiate Genuine Conversations
First impression–or conversation is the main key! Take note, a simple conversation such as asking how they’re doing is a no-no, they will call you boring and give you a bad first impression.
Instead, you can ask a thoughtful question or unique question that reveals more about the person and yourself. Or, you can start by talking about yourself and asking them after that.
Wanna know an example? What about asking “What makes you happy or feel grateful right now?” or if you’re not that serious, you can ask “What movies did you watch last time?”. This convos not only sets the tone to start the conversation but also filters those who are not genuinely interested.
Set Messaging Boundaries
Don’t get stuck in endless messaging on the app, try to ask them out! Aim to move the conversation offline within a week of matching. If someone isn’t willing to meet up, it might be a sign they’re not serious about dating and vice versa.
When you know your cutoff point for messaging, it will help you to keep your dating journey focused and not waste your time.
Balance Online and Offline Efforts
While dating apps are a valuable tool, they shouldn’t be your only strategy. Think about another effort like being initiative to ask them out or at least to move out from the app’s messaging feature to a video call on WhatsApp.
Use dating apps only to build confidence and sharpen your focus on what you want in a partner. Don’t be afraid to meet people through friends, events, or other social settings. Treat them like an opportunity to boost your confidence so you can be more able to identify and approach the right people for you in real life.
You can use these tips anytime, and one advice for you: The secret to a fulfilling dating life isn’t just about trying out more apps. It’s about being intentional with your swiping and taking control of your dating journey, both online and offline.
